My mother was embarrassed when she was diagnosed with dementia. Rather than tell her friends about her illness, she stopped meeting them for lunch or coffee and declined their invitations to concerts and other gatherings. As her disease progressed, she became angry and paranoid. She withdrew from the church group that she had belonged to for over thirty years and refused to attend my son’s hockey games, school concerts and swimming lessons as she had always done.
Elizabeth Murray is the author of Holding on to Mamie: My Mother, Dementia and Me